The following is a sermon LC/NA's deputy director Ross Murray preached on Sunday, March 20th in Glendale, CA.
Grace to you and peace from God our creator and from our Lord and savior Jesus the Christ. Amen.
First of all, I am so thankful to be with you this Sunday morning. I am gladdened to hear that you are considering becoming a Reconciling in Christ congregation. This process can really help your congregation grow and become stronger, even as you reach out to those who are often outside of the church walls. I was also blessed to be with half a dozen people from your church at the “Building an Inclusive Church” training we did yesterday. Working with Reconciling in Christ congregations, and potential Reconciling in Christ congregations is my favorite part of my job.
I find the Nicodemus story that we just heard in our gospel lesson fascinating. Here we have a Pharisee, a religious leader, sneaking up to Jesus under the cover of darkness, to learn more about the kingdom of God. He comes at night to listen and learn from Jesus.
Nicodemus had heard about this Jesus. He knows the signs that Jesus has done. He probably knows Jesus’ teachings. After hearing so much about Jesus, Nicodemus decides that he wants to know more. He says in his opening line: “Rabbi, we know that you are a teacher who has come from God; for no one can do these signs that you do apart from the presence of God”. He’s invoking the “we”, but not being very specific about who the “we” is.
One thing that struck my curiosity was the question of who Nicodemus is representing. It is possible that he is visiting Jesus on behalf of a group of Pharisees. Maybe some Pharisees heard of Jesus’ signs and teachings and elected Nicodemus to be the “scout” for the group. He might be learning what Jesus has to say so that he can report back to the larger group.
It’s also possible that the Pharisees sent Nicodemus to “test” Jesus. There are plenty of other stories in the bible with the Pharisees testing Jesus with some trick question. But this story is different. The line of questioning isn’t asked in such an accusatory tone. And instead of the questions being asked in front of a crowd of witnesses, Nicodemus visits Jesus after dark, alone. No, I think that Nicodemus is coming to learn. He still may be representing others who are interested in Jesus, but he is certainly not trying to trap Jesus by his words.
But it is also very possible that Nicodemus isn’t representing anyone else. He may have heard of Jesus, and wanted to know more. Perhaps Nicodemus didn’t want any of the other Pharisees to know that he had such an interest in learning from Jesus. In fact, his interest in Jesus might be a source of shame for him. He might be visiting at night to make sure that no one else sees him in Jesus’ company.
Whether he is coming out of his own personal interest, or he is representing a group of Pharisees who want to learn more about this Jesus, Nicodemus decided that nighttime is the best time for a conversation like this. And that is perhaps the most interesting of this gospel story…at least to me.
Maybe I’m fascinated with this part of the story because Nicodemus coming to visit Jesus after dark is what I feel such strong resonance with. Nicodemus didn’t approach Jesus in the daylight, in front of the other crowds. He didn’t want people to know that he was learning from Jesus directly. His interest in Jesus had to be hidden. He wasn’t a disciple, in the sense that he followed Jesus around. He was someone who wanted to learn more, but didn’t want to be associated with Jesus directly.
We might think that this is strange or unfamiliar behavior. We may also judge Nicodemus for not wanting to be open about his relationship with Jesus. Unfortunately, this same shame continues to play out today. There are so many people who have a spiritual hunger, but they are scared to death of what being associated with our churches might mean to them. They want to find spiritual fulfillment in their lives, but they are scared of what will happen to them if they join a church.
In part, I am talking about lesbian, gay, bisexual, or transgender people. The history of the relationship between of this population and the church is not good. There is a lot of evidence that a church might not be the safest or healthiest place for someone who is gay or transgender. The Christian history of oppression against LGBT people brings a lot of baggage. Even when a congregation claims that it isn’t like “those” Christians, there is still a lot of baggage to get over.
But I’m describing something that is much bigger than just lesbian, gay, bisexual or transgender. I’m talking about young people, or people who fear that they are going to be judged, or people who believe that church is about enforcing a morality code that they cannot keep. According to a recent study by the evangelical research company Barna, the perception that most young people hold about the church is that it is judgmental and anti-gay. Young people don’t want to be associated with the church because they don’t want to be those things. They don’t even want the reputation of being those things.
I’ve often heard this comment from non-church people who attend meetings or functions in churches, “I’m surprised that lightning hasn’t struck the building yet.” I find this one of the saddest comments to hear about someone’s experience of church. These people believe that God wants to keep them away from the houses of worship at any cost. It signifies that these people believe they have no worth in God’s eyes, and are in fact a threat that must be destroyed. Comments like this grieve me to my core.
The saddest thing is that I know that churches aren’t like that. Churches are a place of spiritual growth and nurture. Churches are a place of community. I want to reach out to those these folks and say, “If you could only experience the life and grace and gospel that I experience in these really good churches, then you might think differently,” but it takes a lot to convince someone that a church isn’t as dangerous as they think it to be.
If folks do want to visit and “try out” our churches, then they feel like they have to “sneak in”. I suspect they might really relate to Nicodemus. They probably have a strong spiritual hunger, but they can’t bring themselves to be a part of the church. If they do want to check it out, they are going to do so tentatively. They might slip into church, about 5 minutes after the service has started. They will sit in the back, as close to the door as they can get. They will stand up and sit down, but might not sing or pray with the rest of us. But they will be listening very carefully. They will want to hear the words that are being sung, and prayed, and spoken from the pulpit. They are listening for the word of condemnation that they are expecting. They are also likely to leave, just as the last hymn is being sung. You won’t get much opportunity to welcome them. You won’t get to show them how welcoming you are. You just have to live it out and share it with them however you can. And slowly, very slowly, the Holy Spirit may work on this person to be a part of your congregation, or perhaps bring them somewhere else. You never know.
As I’m saying this, you might be thinking of one particular, skeptical visitor to your church. There might be a stereotype of this kind of visitor, but this applies so much more broadly. And this reveals the truly amazing thing about our gospel text for the day. Nicodemus came at night, all alone, to ask his own individual, private questions. Over the course of the conversation, the understanding of God’s work in the world gets wider and wider. Nicodemus can barely begin his introduction when Jesus gives him a lesson of being born of water and of the Spirit.
By the time we get to the end of the conversation, we get the proclamation that “God so loved the world, the He gave His only begotten son, so that whoever believes in him might not perish, but have eternal life.” How much more universal do we need to get from that? This story has gone from an individual asking his own personal questions to the promise that everyone who believes in Jesus is going to be granted eternal life. That’s a huge transition! It’s not about one person anymore. It’s about everyone!
We’ve seen the same principle apply in welcoming congregation work. We recommend that congregations go through a process in order to determine whether they want to be a Reconciling in Christ congregation or not. Sometimes people are concerned that they will become a “gay” church by becoming RIC. Often, what they find when they go through the process of listening and learning from one another and by proclaiming themselves welcoming is that they will start to address the universality of the RIC message.
Congregations often do RIC as a welcome to lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people, but those are not who often come in the door first. Instead, they get young adults with families, who have also felt this judgment from the church. In talking about how to be welcoming to LGBT people, congregations have often found that they can be welcoming to other people who have also felt alimentation from the church.
This is the beauty of the gospel of Christ. We often think that it applies to one particular instance, with one particular population. But once we get rolling on it, it we realize that it is something that we all need to hear. Our special ministry for “those people out there” becomes a gospel message that enriches all of our lives.
Nicodemus wanted to sneak in to have a private conversation with Jesus, but out of that conversation, we get the promise of the love and salvation of God for the whole world. One visitor to your church may hear that message and be transformed by it. That’s the power of the gospel. And that is why we continue to preach and share that gospel with anyone and everyone.
Thanks be to God.
Amen.
Do you have a story or sermon about welcome, acceptance of and love for LGBT people, or the good work being done by an RIC congregation? Let us know!